NVC system provides us, as far as I can tell, brilliant notions of differences between needs (or potentials as I call them), emotions, concepts in mind and strategies.
While NVC system itself does not speak directly about it as far as I can see, self-actualization and individualization both play a major role in achieving authenticity in all areas of life, in my opinion.
The quote below (if a bit sharply shared by Osho, in my opinion) is not meant to imply that I am so self-sufficient and self-actualized and individualized that I need no one, no empathy, no warmth, respect and love in my personal (and transpersonal) relationships. No. What I would like to point out is that self-sufficient person does not depend on others for aforementioned qualities.
In my honest opinion, it is only when I was able to go beyond my personal dramas of yearning for attention and forcing & manipulating others to provide me with qualities such as warmth, love, respect and empathy, that I was really beginning to be ready for real and honest relationships. I am still learning, though.
Now for me being alone is not a problem any more. I love being alone. And yet, no man is an island as the saying goes, and I also really enjoy company of others very much. It is just that I am conditioned by that company no more. Celebrating that fact.
The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person – without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.
They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.